10 Tips For Hotter Handjobs

Stroke it to woke it! Handjobs can be heavenly for both the giver and receiver with fun techniques, sexy communication and lots of lube. Tune in for 10 tips to giving hotter handjobs!

10 Tips For Hotter Handjobs

10 Tips For Hotter Handjobs

10 Tips For Hotter Handjobs

Updated
October 23, 2019
Medically Reviewed by
3 minute read

A handjob doesn’t have to be foreplay — something leading up to penetration or orgasm. It can be the main event. 

In this stream, sex educator Luna Matatas gives us 10 tips for hotter handjobs

1. Use a silicone-based lube.

It has a silky feel and can last longer than water-based lube. You can spread it around and push it up their body, “drag it down their thighs, open their legs, touch their perineum,” etc. 

2. Try different positions. 

You can have them lying on their back, standing up with you kneeling, standing against the wall while you kiss them and reach down, etc. There are so many positions to try.  

3. Think about using different parts of your hand or body. 

A handjob does not mean you have to exclusively use your hands. You can involve other parts of your body like your face, using your beard or chin; you can rub the penis against your cheek, or perhaps put it between your breasts. All these different actions help to change up the stimulation while keeping the attention on the penis. 

4. Use sensuality to engage other senses.

For example, you can sustain eye contact while stroking them. You can try using dirty talk or compliment them by saying things like “You smell so good.” 

5. Ask for feedback.

You can simply ask your partner how they masturbate. This can give you an idea of how and where they prefer to be touched. As you’re giving them a cock massage, ask what they like and don’t like. You can also ask with dirty talk 

6. Vary the speed, strength, and direction. 

You can perhaps start very slow, with long, light strokes, and as the experience intensifies, or you feel they are going to orgasm soon, you may want to intensify pressure and speed. When they are close to cumming you can focus short strokes around the head and tighten the grip. 

7. Find your sexy in it. 

Perhaps you’re topless or wearing lingerie. Maybe you’re touching yourself as you touch them. Whatever it may be, find your own pleasure in the experience and don’t be afraid to show it

8. Engage other spots in the region. 

Most people just pay attention to the shaft and head of the penis, which has 4,000 nerve endings, with the most sensitive area being the frenulum. But because part of the penis is internal, stimulating areas such as the perineum — the space between the balls and asshole — and the prostate can be very pleasurable. The testicles can be very sensitive and some people like them touched, while others don’t. Again, ask for feedback. 

9. Engage in other under-serviced hot spots. 

Matatas suggests using your hands to rub up and down their waist, scratching their thighs, biting their tummy, nibbling around their crotch, etc. 

10. Try a new technique 

Run over the edges of the head of the penis with your fingers gently. Matatas describes this as “bouncing the squid.” You can also try the twist and stroke where you start at the top then twist downward. Using lube helps. 

There are so many ways to give an excellent handjob or cock massage. It’s most important to simply communicate with your partner to see what they’re into. That way you’re sure to create a great sensual experience for the both of you.

Luna Matatas

Reviewed for Medical Accuracy

A vibrant pleasure educator and aspiring burlesque performer, Luna embraces the weird, wild and wonderful kaleidoscope of sexuality. Luna seeks to help students of all experience levels deconstruct their inner walls and approach their desires with playfulness, an open mind, and an empathetic spirit. Her O.school workshops on body love, pleasure, and play are refreshingly funny, warm and inviting.

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