Oral Sex
September 19, 2019

Eating Pussy Tips

Best 7 tips for giving pussy pleasure and becoming a pussy-eating master.
Written by
Louise Bourchier, MPH
Published on
September 19, 2019
Updated on
June 9, 2022
What's changed?
We updated this article with two added tips on how to eat pussy.
We updated this article with two added tips on how to eat pussy.
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Oral sex on someone with a vulva is one of the most popular sexual activities out there — and for good reason! Cunnilingus (the technical name for eating pussy) stimulates the clitoris directly. Since most people with a vulva need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, it can be a tried-and-true technique for bringing your partner to climax (1).

7 best tips for eating pussy 

If you are wondering how to eat pussy, try these top five pussy-eating tips for pleasing your partner. 

1. Tease the whole pussy.

While it’s fabulous to focus in on the clit — especially when your partner is at the height of their arousal—it can be even better to warm things up by stimulating the whole area. You can start up by the belly button or hips and make a trail of kisses over the pubic mound, or start down by the knees and work your way up to the inner thighs. Playfully lick and kiss up, down, and around the labia, the perineum (also called the taint, it’s the sensitive stretch of skin between the anus and the vagina), and the vaginal opening. As things heat up, you can start zeroing in on the clitoris. 

Remember to check in with your partner to make sure they’re enjoying what you’re doing; some people love attention to their labia, perineum, and vagina during oral sex—others, not so much. 

You can start up by the belly button or hips and make a trail of kisses over the pubic mound.

2. Get the clit pressure right. 

Everyone has their own preferences when it comes to how their clit is stimulated or touched. People like a different amount of pressure on their clit and around their vulva. Some people’s clits are so sensitive that even light pressure feels intense, while too much pressure may be uncomfortable. Starting with light, teasing pressure can help build arousal as well as letting you gauge what kind of touch your partner likes. Ask your partner what feels best, and pay attention to their body language. 

For many people, the clitoris becomes less sensitive the more turned on they get (2). Pay attention to signs of arousal: Is your partner’s clit getting hard, or does it appear larger? Is lubrication (wetness) from the vagina increasing? Have their body movements, breathing, or the sounds they’re making changed? Someone who’s more turned on may enjoy deeper, firmer pressure on their clit.

As well as stimulating it with your tongue, you can try gently sucking on the clit. Sucking on the clit can lead to increased blood flow, making sensations more pleasurable; research has even suggested that clitoral suction (a sucking sensation on the clit) can be helpful for people who struggle to reach orgasm (3).

3. Find the right rhythm to orgasm. 

Experiment with different rhythms to find out what your partner likes. Try different speeds, and then experiment with mixing them up. Do they like a consistent rhythm? Do they like pauses? For many people, teasing feels great at the beginning, but as they get closer to orgasm they need a steadier rhythm to get there. If your partner is nearing climax, try to keep the rhythm consistent. 

If you can’t tell what rhythm your partner prefers, don’t be afraid to ask directly.

If your partner is nearing climax, try to keep the rhythm consistent.

4. Add a finger or two during oral sex.

Tongue getting tired? Take a break and let your hand take over. If you’re new to eating pussy, or you’ve been licking for a while, your tongue and jaw may get tired. Switching to your hand allows the receiver to still enjoy the sensations and build arousal. You can also use both your mouth and hand together! Many people find it pleasurable to have a finger in the vagina or the anus during oral sex. Try various fingering techniques to see what gets your partner going. 

5. Incorporate sex toys. 

Once you’ve had plenty of practice using your tongue and fingers, you might feel like an expert pussy eater. But you can incorporate sex toys to enhance pussy-eating even more. Penetrating your partner with a dildo all while you’re licking them can provide a combination of stimulation your partner may love. For extra sensation — particularly if your partner’s vulva is less sensitive, or if they like more focused stimulation — you can alternate between your mouth and a vibrator on the clit. Of course, communicate with your partner to find out what kind of toys or stimulation they prefer. 

6. Become a pussy connoisseur. 

Some people feel anxious about a partner going down on them because they are afraid their pussy will smell or taste bad, or people worry if their vagina looks normal. In fact, many people enjoy the pussy’s unique aroma and flavor; there’s even evidence that its smell may promote sexual desire and decrease stress (4). As the giver, you can reassure your partner by complimenting their smell, taste, and appearance down there. Each pussy does have a distinct smell and taste, and a good pussy eater will appreciate this as part of the experience. 

7. Talk it out so you can learn to be even better. 

Communicating throughout the pussy-eating experience, asking what your partner likes, and paying attention to verbal and nonverbal cues is so important. It can help you understand what works for your partner, and what doesn’t work as well. Take note of those techniques so you can apply them more the next time you go down on them. After you’ve eaten your partner out, you can also have a sexy decompression session and straight-up ask them what was good or not so great about the experience. The more you communicate, the better you’ll be at eating pussy. 

The bottom line 

Next time you’re getting down with your partner, use these top tips to take your pussy eating to the next level. Your partner will thank you. Once you feel you know how to eat pussy well, you may want to consider even more ways to make sex exciting. Try these ideas for expanding your sexual horizons

Reviewed for Medical Accuracy

Louise Bourchier is a sex educator and sex researcher with 8 years experience in the field. She teaches about sexual health, sexual pleasure, and communication in relationships through workshops, live-streams, and with written content. Using a sex-positive approach, a dash of humour, and bag full of fun props, Louise’s style of sex education for adults is not what you got in high school! Since 2011 she has taught over a hundred workshops to a wide range of audiences, from university students, to refugees, to medical professionals, to adult store clientele. She has a Masters of Public Health, and is currently a PhD candidate.

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