There’s a reason most of us jerk off often — ‘cuz it feels damn good. But there are tips and tricks to make masturbation even better.
First, let’s be clear — masturbation is healthy and normal as it serves your emotional well-being. It doesn’t give you hairy palms, as some popular myths would have us believe. On the contrary, masturation is the best and safest way to explore what you like and what turns you on, which can help you communicate better with a future partner.
But how can we jerk off better? Dr. Alkan says there are certain things to avoid, like water-based lube and overstimulation — both of which can cause chafing. Switch things up when you masturbate: try masturbating with lube, with a condom on, masturbate while watching porn, use your imagination, etc. Having variency and novelty helps make sure you don’t get used to one thing. You can break your routine by intermittently introducing something new every now and again. For example, you might get aroused with gripping your penis very tight (known as the death grip), but then you can slowly lower the amount of pressure, and try a different type of stimulation.
You can also try different techniques. One trick is to use lube to minimize friction. Saliva works, but a silicone-based lube can be more long-lasting. You can also try hand cream, lotion, or soap (but watch out for your urethra), or an organic oil like coconut oil. Be sure not to use oils with condoms, however, as it degrades the latex material. After applying lube, grab the shaft of the penis and move your hand against the hard part of the inside of the penis so you aren’t dragging the skin. Move your hand in tiny motions against the penis itself and give attention to the frenulum — the most sensitive part of the penis where the shaft meets the head.
If you want to experiment with toys, there are plenty of options. You can try a masturbation sleeve — anything that goes over the penis, like a Fleshlight or toys by Tenga or BLEWIT! A sleeve can have different suction adjustments and surfaces on the inside to give you different kinds of sensations. You can also try a cock ring, either one for the cock and balls, or one for the base of the shaft. This is meant to help you get harder and stay hard as it keeps the blood flow in the shaft. You can also try a toy for prostate masturbation, like a butt plug or dildo.
Stimulating the prostate through the anus is the best way to reach it directly, but you can also stimulate the prostate externally by feeling around the anus and applying pressure to the perineum, aka the taint or area between the balls and asshole. People describe prostate orgasms being much more full-bodied, unlike a penis orgasm which are more pointed. That’s why the prostate is known as the male G-spot.
It can take a bit of experimentation to learn how to maximize your pleasure while jerking off. If you’re open to new techniques, or even a few sex toys, you might just find something that really works for you you otherwise wouldn’t have tried.