Creating heightened sensory experiences through temperature play can be extremely erotic if done properly.
In this stream, sex educator Micki Allen gives an intro to temperature play.
Temperature play is when you introduce a bit of heat or cold into your sexual activities. It can be a form of foreplay or the main event, as experiencing various temperatures can help heighten your senses and “get your body in the mood and receptive to your lover’s touch,” says Allen. Wearing a blindfold while playing with temperature can help heighten the sensations.
When experimenting with temperature play, safety is paramount. “We want to be safe, sane, and consensual,” says Allen. For example, don’t ever microwave massage oils. Instead, use massage oil candles made of body-safe materials. Check what temperature it can heat up to, and then light the candle and let it melt into an oil you can pour onto your partner’s body and massage into their skin. If you want to explore BDSM and wax play, make sure the wax object or candle is from a specialty store and/or meant for play. A low burning wax or a massage oil candle, for example, won’t get above body temperature. Also be sure to have a way to quickly extinguish the fire. If you’re going to play with ice, be sure it’s cool to liquid, and not so frozen it can burn or stick to the body.
While there are many toys meant for temperature, you can also use everyday objects. “Sometimes a pizza cutter is just a pizza cutter, or a candle holder is just candle holder,” says Allen. “Until you heat it up or cool it down [and] use it for temperature play on your body.” Temperature play can also be as basic as simply taking a warm bath with your partner, or dripping a cold drink on the body while in a jacuzzi. Allen also suggests cooling or warming water-based lube, which you can then put on toys or your body.
If you want to get a bit more advanced, you can try toys such as Ben Wa balls. Allen recommends cooling the glass balls and placing them in the vaginal canal to do kegel exercises. You can also use them for a massage and place them on your partner’s body and roll them down the back or stomach. Try alternating between cold toys and heated oil to keep things exciting. You can also try a pleasure wheel or a Wartenberg wheel to roll on the body. These are made of metal, which is good for heat, and have spikes with different intensities..
While temperature play may not be for everyone, it can be a great way to enhance your sexual experiences by heightening the senses. You can experiment with objects around the house, or get a bit more advanced with toys. However you choose to incorporate heat or cold into the bedroom, just be sure to do it safely.