It seems like menstruation is slowly becoming more talked about and normalized. It’s about time! Most people with a uterus menstruate at some point in their lives, so why not discuss it? The days of being embarrassed to buy tampons and pads are over. Now there are many more choices like cups and sponges and everything in an abundance of sizes and styles. Speaking of choice, it’s high time we discussed period sex.  

Is it bad to have sex on your period?

Having sex on your period is perfectly fine. Here’s the bottom line, if you want to have period sex, there is no reason not to. If you don’t want to, well then don’t. If you might want to but have some questions, then read on.

If you want to have period sex, there is no reason not to. If you don’t want to, well then don’t.

It’s a lot more fun talking about sex than about cramps, and some people’s libidos are super charged during period days so wanting to have sex while you’re menstruating is a common thing. If this is you, go for it with a few tips on communication, safety and, of course, pleasure.

Is it safe to have sex when you’re on your period?

Just like other body fluids, your menstrual blood can carry STIs. It’s always a good idea to make sure you and your partner have been tested. During your period your cervix is higher and more open, so bacteria may flow more freely into the uterus. Condoms are still the most effective way to prevent STIs from spreading. 

Can you get pregnant having sex on your period?

Yes you can get pregnant during your period, so you should still use birth control. Typically you’re most likely to get pregnant about two weeks after the start of your last period, since that’s approximately when ovulation occurs for most people. But the fertile window is different for everyone, and can vary from month to month, plus sperm can survive in uterus for 5 days, so with so many variables to consider it’s possible to get pregnant at any point in your cycle.

Does sex help with period cramps?

Some people find that having sex can ease menstrual cramps. Orgasms release endorphins that can help to relax the uterus, so having sex (or masturbating) can lessen cramps.

How to have sex on your period

Decide on your comfort levels for period sex. Just touching, yes or no to oral, penetration with fingers, or with a toy or penis? Then you have a guide and you will be able to push the envelope through agreement and not surprise.

Decide on your comfort levels for period sex. Just touching, yes or no to oral, penetration with fingers, or with a toy or penis? 

Start with a conversation

Let’s say either you, or your partner, wants to try period sex. Anytime you want to try something new in the bedroom, it’s a good idea to begin with a conversation. Don’t assume - discuss! 

Be kind and always talk about how you feel, not how your partner should feel. Listen. If you just quiet down and listen, you’ll be surprised at how much information you are able to receive from your partner.

How to deal with the blood during period sex

Worried about the blood? Did you know that during your entire period, you only release 3-4 tablespoons of blood? It doesn’t all come out during sex either. 

During that communication part you may find that neither of you are really bothered by the blood and you’ll both enjoy the added lubrication from more fluids in your vagina. In which case, just put a dark towel underneath you and go for it. 

Or, if you want an easier clean up, shower sex is a great option! Let the blood wash straight off down the drain.

Just put a dark towel underneath you and go for it... Or, if you want an easier clean up, shower sex is a great option!

Still not convinced but want to try? Using a menstrual disc or a sponge that sits up high, closer to your cervix, will absorb most of the blood before it flows out of you. These methods are different from a tampon FYI - you do not want to leave a tampon in during penetration! A tampon is great for external play or oral sex though.

Best sex positions when you’re on your period

Try out different positions to see what feels best when you have your period. Since your cervix moves up a little bit higher during menstruation, the feelings may be different. If doggie style is normally painful, it may not be because of the extra lubrication and higher cervix. Also, missionary style or anything where you’re on your back will result in less blood on the sheets.

Period sex may be a whole new adventure for you. Remember to stay safe, try different positions and use a dark colored towel. The rest is just another sexy exploration.

Enjoy!