All orgasms are good orgasms, but sometimes they can be even better if you have more than one during a single sexual experience. This is known as a multiple orgasm, it differs from person to person, and can involve all different types of stimulation and sensations. “Multiple orgasms generally refer to experiencing multiple climaxes (peaks in sexual pleasure) in rapid succession during the same period of sexual activity,” Dr. Jess O’Reilly, Astroglide’s resident sexologist, tells O.school.
Simply put, everyone can have multiple orgasms — but it might be easier for some than others.
If you’re wondering how to have multiple orgasms, you’re in the right place.
Here are 12 tips on how to have multiple orgasms.
1. Don’t see the first orgasm as the final destination.
Sexological bodywork and holistic sex coach Céline Remy states that when people mentally, emotionally, and physically feel done, that makes it harder for them to achieve additional orgasms. “The key is to open your mind to new possibilities and higher levels of pleasure,” she states. “You must train your body to stay in a heightened state of pleasure for a sustained period of time.” (See the next paragraph for details on how to do this.) Again, this takes time and patience, so don’t rush yourself.
In general, Lorrae Bradbury — founder of Slutty Girl Problems, and a sex, love, and empowerment coach — says, “Find the point where you can still have stimulation after orgasm without it feeling too sensitive, ease up just enough to give your body a break, and return to stimulation at the pace your body can handle, listening to if you need more or less stimulation the second time around.” It’s also important to note that you might require a different form of stimulation after the first orgasm. Bradbury states that this can involve more internal stimulation, rougher stimulation, or a vibrator.
2. If you have a vulva, experiment with these types of stimuli.
Multiple orgasms can occur with many different techniques and types of stimuli. Dr. O’Reilly suggests experimenting with these techniques if you have a vulva:
Upon having your first orgasm, capitalize on the pleasure and stimulation already built up in your body and quickly change up your technique. If your orgasm was a result of G-spot stimulation, switch to breast or clitoral stimulation. Your body is already highly aroused, so you will be primed to experience successive orgasms that feel completely different than the ones before.
3. If you have a penis, experiment with these techniques.
If you have a penis, Dr. O’Reilly recommends dry orgasms — an orgasm without ejaculation. “When ejaculation is not part of the equation, it’s possible to maintain peak arousal levels after orgasm without losing an erection.” Exploring prostate stimulation can also help. Dr. O’Reilly suggests experimenting with these techniques if you have a penis.
- When you reach the highest point of the plateau stage just before orgasm, stop and stay still.
- Squeeze your pelvic floor muscle — this involves lifting and squeezing the muscles inside your pelvis, like you’re trying to stop yourself from peeing, which should cause the base of the penis to come in and the scrotum to lift up — while pressing firmly into the area of your perineum, just in front of your anus [and behind the scrotum], to stimulate the prostate.
- Take deep breaths and allow the prostatic contractions and orgasmic sensations to travel throughout your body.
- When your orgasmic contractions cease, release your pelvic floor muscles and take a few deep breaths before resuming stimulation.
4. Assess the sensation.
Multiple orgasms require a high level of arousal, and each orgasm contributes to that level. “While there are diminishing returns after a certain point, typically each orgasm is more powerful than the last, setting off the next in the chain,” says Watson.
Some may love this feeling, and others not so much. Dr. O’Reilly states that, “After the first orgasm, the clitoris is often extremely sensitive to the point where many [people] prefer to avoid any further direct stimulation. However, many [people] say pushing through this oversensitivity can help more pleasure build up and result in another orgasm.”
On the other hand, some may even find they enjoy “forced orgasms.” Bradbury explains that this type of orgasm continues “to use the same stimulation or increased stimulation to hit a pleasure/pain combo that brings on orgasm after orgasm, even to the point of feeling painful.”
“Assess if it’s a pleasurable painful, truly just painful, or if it’s a discomfort that can be worked through or not,” advises Bradbury. While exploring your body, take the time to note its limits, and don’t feel pressured to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Work within your comfort zone.
No, but really. Play relaxing music, light some candles, experiment with massaging the body, try meditating — incorporate whatever makes you feel calm. Remy explains that when one is stressed out, that creates cortisol in the body and causes it to go into survival mode. This can make it difficult for you to achieve an orgasm.
6. Focus on the journey — not the destination.
Allow yourself time and patience. When it comes to successfully having multiple orgasms, Dr. O’Reilly says, “It can take weeks, months, or even longer” to learn to achieve it. During this time, allow yourself to have fun while figuring out what feels good to you.
Remember that the time between orgasms also differs based on the person — it can take anywhere from a few seconds to a minute or two. You may need to rest for some time in between each orgasm, which is perfectly normal.
7. Experiment with toys.
“For [people with vulvas], the easiest path is either a sonic toy or a strong clitoral vibrator,” sex therapist Angela Watson advises, with the goal being to stimulate the clitoris as much as possible. “For [those with a penis], a quality prostate massager with added vibrations makes the task almost excessively simple.”
8. Try kegel exercises.
Those with a penis can find kegel exercises and squats to be helpful, according to Dr. O’Reilly: “Pelvic floor muscle tone is crucial if you want to learn to control ejaculation and intensify orgasms.” Remy states that this can specifically help your muscles become more resilient, allowing them to bounce back like a trampoline. The same can be said for those with a vulva. Overall, kegel exercises promote healthy sexual functioning.
Want to know exactly how to perform kegel exercises? More information can be found here.
9. Don’t limit yourself.
Remy advises that one allows themselves to be vocal and move their body in ways that feel good to them. Most importantly, remember that everyone can have a multiple orgasm — it just takes practice. “There’s a reason people strive for multiple orgasms as the ‘holy grail’ of sexual pleasure,” says Dr. O’Reilly. “Because it’s not the norm for most, and certainly doesn’t reflect any sort of exclusive special skill (or lack thereof).”
10. Breathe consciously.
When it comes to orgasms, Remy states that breathing is key. Specifically, conscious, rhythmic breathing that allows you to feel alive and to truly be in the moment.
11. Embrace other forms of touch
“Don't forget to stimulate multiple erogenous zones at the same time [like nipples, feet, inner thighs, neck, etc.] to increase your pleasure and spread the sensations throughout your entire body,” Remy advises.
12. Explore solo.
To discover your body’s limits and likes, you may want to experiment on your own before involving a partner. During this time, according to Bradbury, you can practice experiencing “the sensations that help bring you over the edge over and over again.”
Important takeaway: Multiple orgasms take practice and differ from person to person.