Can You Make Someone Squirt With Anal Sex?
Can You Make Someone Squirt With Anal Sex?
Before we dive into how to do it, it’s important to take a moment with why. While it’s wonderful to be up for sexual experimentation and trying new things can be a lot of fun, sometimes setting a specific goal can create a lot of pressure. And the pressure is the enemy of pleasure. It might sound cliché, but if we become too goal-oriented in our sex and play, we miss a lot of beautiful things along the way.
If you’re not already squirting during sex it doesn’t mean that you’re missing out on some kind of better orgasm that other people are having, by the way. Plenty of squirters report that the orgasms aren’t any more intense or pleasurable than other kinds of orgasms, and some even report that they’re less pleasurable.
Also of note is that ejaculation and orgasm are separate processes for people with all genital configurations. However, in people with vulvas, it’s even more common for the ejaculation or squirting to come before orgasm, sometimes well before. That means you don’t necessarily want to stop stimulation when you see an ejaculation — rather, it’s important to check in and see what feels good.
How does squirting from anal sex work?
It’s pretty similar to any other kind of squirting experience. The membrane between the rectum and vaginal canal is quite thin, and the vaginal canal collapses like the sleeve of a shirt when there’s nothing inside, so the G-spot is easy to access from anal penetration. Some people even prefer G-spot stimulation from anal play because that extra tissue can make be more enjoyable for people who find direct stimulation too intense.
Going for G-spot stimulation from anal sex isn’t necessarily for anal beginners. You’re going to want to be comfortable enough to play around with different angles and different intensities, so it’s a good idea to have a general comfort with anal penetration and to know what is and isn’t going to work for you. Like all anal play, lube is essential, especially if you’re aiming for vigorous stimulation.
What can intensify squirting from anal?
Another factor that can ramp up the experience is the overall sensitivity of the anal area. There are tons of nerve-endings that can experience pleasure and for some people, the overall higher level of intensity can help increase the likelihood of squirting.
It’s not just the G-spot area you’ll be hitting from anal penetration, but the whole clitourethrovaginal (CUV) complex — all the structures that are responsible for pleasure. With arousal, the internal clitoral complex swells along with the urethral sponge and skene's glands. All of these areas press into and against the walls of the vaginal canal, especially the anterior wall, and that’s the area most associated with squirting orgasms. If you’re trying this on a partner, try inserting one or two fingers into the rectum and curving them upward towards the front of the body. While your fingers are just one to two knuckles deep explore the area and different levels of pressure while in communication with your partner until you find the spots that feel best.
Try to incorporate whatever kinds of stimulation usually feel good for you. If you’re used to using a vibrator for external stimulation during vaginal or anal penetration, make sure you’re doing that when you’re aiming for squirting. And just like other forms of G-spot play, an extreme curve can be helpful, whether that’s from a G-spot wand toy, curved fingers, or penile penetration that allows for a steep angle.
Cross contamination is an issue when you’re doing both anal and vaginal play, so make sure you’re not going back and forth at all — that means fingers, mouths, toys, penises — anything that goes in or around the anal area must be sanitized before vaginal contact. Gloves, dental dams, and condoms (including internal condoms) can help with this. Just be sure to swap out barriers when moving from anal to vaginal contact.
Your body learns how pleasure works over time and certain responses can become reinforced. So each time you squirt, it becomes more likely you’ll do so again. Both because the body gets used to that response, and because you’re more relaxed mentally and expecting it. So, remember that learning a new skill or new response is a process, and try to enjoy that process at least as much as the potential end result.