Eating pussy is what you make it. For you and your sexual partner, oral sex might be an appetizer to warm up before the main course—or it might itself be the main course of your date night. Perhaps oral sex is the only way you or your partner orgasm, so it’s gotta be part of the main spread—or maybe you think of it as an added flourish, like a cherry on top.

However you go about pussy eating, you can maximize your and your partner’s pleasure by thinking of oral sex as an art form, one that requires diligent practice, abundant creativity, and genuine curiosity!

Preparing For Pussy Eating

Before you dive into your oral adventure, it’s important to set yourself up for success. Here are some ideas for how to prepare:

• Be sure to talk with your partner about what you both want and consent to—before, during, and after sex! Letting your partner know, for instance, that you think it’s super hot when they pull your hair while you’re eating them out can help ensure that you’re going to get just as much as you give.
• Warm up for the feast by watching your partner masturbate, so that you can learn what they like and even try mimicking their hand movements with your tongue.
• If you or your partner deal with chronic pain, you might consider using a heating pad or cooling pack on the vulva before and/or after sex.
• Have whatever sexy-time supplies you need at the ready! Whether that’s a sex toy, a box of kleenex, some lube, or even some sensual snacks (because sometimes you need a little fuel after a workout, even if it’s just a jaw workout!), having everything you need within reach can help reduce any interruptions to your flow.
• If you know that your incredible pussy-eating makes for a little mess—whether that’s from your partner’s squirt or a lubed up toy—you might try laying down a soft towel, or a liberator throe for easy cleanup and extra coziness.

Best Tongue Techniques For Eating Out

Once everyone’s cozy, comfy, and turned on, it’s time to twirl some tongue! While you’ve always got the classic vertical or horizontal lapping techniques at your disposal, here are some next-level moves with which to curl your lover’s toes:

• Circles: Use the tip of your tongue to circle the clitoris. Pressing right on the clit with a super-focused, pinpointed pressure may be too intense, depending on your partner, so be sure to pay attention to their reaction as you zone in on each of the clit’s four “sides” (above, below, left, and right).
• Figure eights: By licking a figure eight around the vulva, you can add a whole new level to circling the clit. Try adding on a lap around the labia, hitting the perineum at the bottom.
• Upside down “V”: Draw an upside down “V,” the point being the clit of course, with your flattened tongue to get a broad sweep of the vulva.
• Tongue penetration: Since the clitoris has the highest concentration of nerve endings, clit stimulation is usually the main focus of oral sex, but for some people slipping the tongue inside the vagina can feel awesome.

Pay attention to your partner’s responses to each of these variations. You can ask them which technique they prefer during or after sex, making a mental note for the next time you want to blow their mind!

Ask your partner which technique they prefer during or after sex, making a mental note for the next time you want to blow their mind!

Best Positions For Eating Out Pussy

We’ve all got our go-to sexy positions: Licking pussy from between your partner’s legs, with your chin towards their butt and eyes facing up to occasionally glimpse your partner’s reaction, is, for many people, tried and true. If you’re hungry for something new, try licking from an angle: Tilting your face to the side so that your forehead rests on one thigh, chin on the other.  Eating pussy facing backwards is another yummy option. You can do this with your partner in the “doggy” position if they’re sitting on your face, or if you’re sixty-nining each other.

Best Tongue Pressure For Going Down

Pressure is an important component of oral sex! Start with a lighter lick and work up from there. Pay attention to your partner’s body language: If they’re pushing against your tongue, they probably want a harder pressure. If your partner is pulling their hips back they probably want a lighter caress. Many people like a hard tongue pressure, especially when they’re getting more and more excited and nearing orgasm. Ultimately, every body is different, so it’s always best to ask your partner what they like, rather than assume you know. For some people a lighter pressure can be totally mind-blowing!

For many people a lighter pressure can be totally mind-blowing!

When eating pussy, the tongue is certainly the main player, but it’s not the only tool you can use to give great oral sex: Use your lips to kiss, suck or even hum around the vulva, and try adding a finger or sex toy to take your oral sex skills to the next level.

Bon appetit!